Why them?

I have seen more than my share of break-up's and all I can figure is why them? I mean those women we blame for taking, stealing, corrupting our relationship's with our men. Well what I have to say is what is wrong with us it's not our fault, the other woman's fault, or even our man's fault for all that drama to take place. I wonder if men like us have been so used to seeing other men as they grew up moving onto the next woman and even though they know it's wrong are they just as screwed up in the back of their minds as we women are. Is it all just programed in us by what we have seen? So my question of the day is why them, so to all the women left for another woman, all the women who seem to have taken a man from another woman, and those men who are just stuck in a bad cycle I leave this question up to you all to discuss and hell maybe we will finally have an answer to the time old question, why them?